Meditation is in everyday life

If you ask a person has he/she ever been meditated ? The answer would probably be no.

Meditation seems to be a big word that scare people away, “Meditate ? Are you nut ? I’m no monk or saint. I’m too busy.”

But what actually is meditation ? In my opinion, it’s all about doing something mindfully, with your full attention, whatever it’s cleaning, cooking, making bed, listening rock n’ roll or sitting in peace and quiet.

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This morning, when I was changing bed sheets, I meditated. I did the whole thing slowly and carefully, instead of hurry things up and think it’s an annoying task. My husband told me that once he dated a lady who worked in hotel and had to change bed sheets everyday and she had the most beautiful muscles on the back shoulders that he ever known.

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Yesterday on the radio, there’s a man talking about his meditate. He said that he practising yoga frequently and meditate through an APP. You can turn the APP from 15 minutes up to 2 hours’ meditation. This is pretty smart I think. It’s a combination of technology and ancient wisdom. As a person spend quite a time on internet, I started googling. The first APP came up was “Calm“. It also has the feature to help improving sleep. I think it’s essential for everyone to find their own way of meditate.

 

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That’s what help me recovering from BED.

It’s been a while I like to write this post. But I was not confident yet, but now, I can stand high and say: goodbye BED!

About a year ago, I was still frequenting “The White Bandage”, an association which helps people who suffer with eating disorder. 

My eating disorder started from 10 years ago when I was in university , I was trying to lose weight and got obesessed. I avoid going home during the weekend then I could be alone at school and don’t have to eat. I got too skinny until my period stopped for over a year. My mum got worried and took me to the doctor. Slowly by slowly, under the help of medicine, I went to the normal weight.

During my five year in Paris, I was healthy and not a second I thought about my weight, I was happy then.


It didn’t last until I moved to Iceland in 2014. The isolation and lonliness somehow awakened the devil inside me. I become obsessed about food, about the weight again. It’s not until I dropped to only 35 kg that I was alerted. I looked myself into the mirror and the only thing I saw was a skinny child, not a charming woman at all. 

The worst thing about BED is the self-deficient after each binge. I will feel completely a loser and idiot. Why did I do this to myself? It’s the last time i swear. I’m not going to eat anything for the next day. I have to stop this !

I am lucky.

I have a husband with whom we talk about everything. We trust each other completely. There’s no secret or taboo between us. So he noticed my eating disorder. I start going to “The White Bandage”. She’s a lady of my mum’s age, with very gentle voice and tender eyes. When she looks at you, it’s full of compassion and love. She’s an art therapist . With each section , I draw a picture, whatever was on my mind.

After stop seeing her (since my weight went back to normal and so does my period), I still had couple of times “crime”. But I didn’t feel guilty anymore. 


Today, I’m pregnant which was the least thing I expect of myself. It’s a truly gift. I see it as a transform. I know this devil root will always be there, but I’m not afraid anymore because I choose not to. I choose to be healthy, joyful and graceful.

So that’s what I do if I feel a sign of craving:

  1. I listen to some soft music or music that emotional attached
  2. I go for a walk
  3. I avoid eating alone
  4. I avoid being too hungry
  5. I make myself a cup of warm chai tea with milk and sugar
  6. Call a friend or my mum

This is my story. I do hope it could help those who’re suffering from eating disorder. 

What it’s really like to live with ADHD

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a brain disorder marked by an ongoing pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that interferes with functioning or development.

  • Inattention means a person wanders off task, lacks persistence, has difficulty sustaining focus, and is disorganized; and these problems are not due to defiance or lack of comprehension.

  • Hyperactivity means a person seems to move about constantly, including in situations in which it is not appropriate; or excessively fidgets, taps, or talks. In adults, it may be extreme restlessness or wearing others out with constant activity.

  • Impulsivity means a person makes hasty actions that occur in the moment without first thinking about them and that may have high potential for harm; or a desire for immediate rewards or inability to delay gratification. An impulsive person may be socially intrusive and excessively interrupt others or make important decisions without considering the long-term consequences.

What it’s really like to live with ADHD

 

Extra virgin cod liver oil

You heard about extra virgin olive oil, but have you heard about extra virgin cod liver oil ? And here, in the remote Westfjords in Iceland, they cold pressed the cod liver oil, to make it purer and more nutritional.

We all know that fish oil is rich in omega-3 and vitamin D, good for your brain, eyes, joints, etc. Specially in Iceland, where sunshine is a big missing part. People have been taken cod liver oil for a long time.

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Icelandic skyr, cream and BLUEBERRIES !!

When I lived in France, my regular breakfast was toast (with butter and jam), soft boiled egg and coffee. And this habit hadn’t been changed for almost four years !

And now, four year since I’m in Iceland, I believe that I found my new love, which is plain skyr, cream and blueberries. These three things go perfectly together. I was not a big fan of cream, but Icelandic cream they’re so good that you can hardly say no to it. And Icelandic skyr? It’s becoming a trendy in some restaurants to either serve it as an appetite or dessert, of course, they’ll do something fancier to enlighten the humble skyr. For most Icelanders, skyr means school, kids and not fancy at all ! One of my friends, she got so “amazed” when it’s served with a lobster soup.

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In one of the finest restaurants in Reykjavik, they serve skyr as appetite with olive oil and basil oil tomato confit.

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In Iceland, bilberries (known as aðalbláber, or “prime blueberry”) grow predominantly in Westfjords and the surrounding area. In most of the country, the closely related bláber occupy the same habitat. Both species are commonly found growing with dwarf birch and crowberries. Wild growth is vast compared to the population of Iceland and wildharvesting is legal. As a consequence, it is a popular activity in August when the berry season peaks. A popular use for bilberries is to eat them with skyr.

There’re two annual blueberry pick up festival in Iceland, one is in Súðavík (Blueberry days) in the West Fjords and another one is Ólafsfjörður, which is also an art and music festival. Both festivals run from August 16 to 18.

Love is all around

After having watched “love actually”, for me, Christmas has officially began. Even though we don’t have tradition to spend Christmas in China, being in foreign countries for 8 years, I find its extreme cozy being around the people you love and love you, wherever they are.

December will just float like water, decorations, gifts, food (lots of salmon, herring and smoked stuff). I shall keep up with my icelandic and hot yoga. And to conclude the November resolution, I did break it by having Champagne twice! (It’s impossible to resist). Yet I love green smoothie, it’s not a diet but a life style.

Therefore for December, I will try to stick to the green smoothie/toast plan for lunch and eat more protein for dinner. I have to put on some weight and get to the balance, because, from January, I’ll be going to school.

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